When jealousy killed

When we love, it is natural to feel some fear of losing a loved one. We want the object of our love we want in return and be the only recipients of that love. We fear being rejected but in particular, fear that you give your loved one his love to another.

Jealousy is normal feelings that arise in a partner and is one of the issues that need to talk openly. It is important to remember that even those who are happy and well with their peers, occasionally jealous.

The jealousy not have to threaten the stability of the relationship, or are a sign of trouble in the couple.

When jealousy is out of control, are transformed into feelings of possessiveness and can be detrimental to the couple. Then it is necessary to see what is "hiding? below this emotion so intense and negative. Jealousy talk possessive personal insecurities and doubts, a constant fear of being abandoned. also involve intense feelings of anxiety, threat, rejection and fantasies usually accompanied by anger and irrational accusations the other person.

One problem with the "jealous? Do not take responsibility for changing this behavior, because they feel that the obsession with the subject is perfectly justified.

When jealousy have escalated to a situation that brings tension and threatening the stability of the couple must confront the problem. The person "jealous? must be encouraged to see and talk to your partner about the anxieties, fears of abandonment and hurt feelings that lie behind the jealousy. You have to begin to understand that their "survival? does not depend on your partner and so as to nurture self esteem and self confidence.

If you feel a victim of uncontrollable jealousy of your partner, try not to fall into the trap of answering questions unreasonable and pity. If you feel that there is no hope of change, consultation with a psychotherapist or psychological counselor is recommended.